“Some things are meant to be” others … aren’t. Yesterday marked the end of an amazing four (almost five) month relationship with one of the most amazing women I know. The worst part of the whole thing? We still love each other.
That last statement obviously leads to the question “why?” The answer is somewhat more complicated, vague, and disturbing than you probably want to know. When all is said and done, it basically boils down to a matter of religious differences between my mother and my ex-girlfriend. Why does this matter so much? What are the ramifications of such a decision? What will I do from here?
The answers to these questions are yet to be found, but I suppose “life goes on.” I still have my support network of family, friends, and of course, brothers waiting to keep me occupied, busy, and distracted, but thoughts of her still linger in my mind. With time, they will fade, but the memories of these months will still remain. These have been some of the best months of my life, and maybe, just maybe, we can pick up somewhere, sometime later. However the future plays out, here’s to you my dear. I hope that life treats you well and that everything works out for the best.
See you around.
PS: The title of this post is adapted from a song by Colin Hay, I Just Don’t Think I’ll Ever Get Over You. You should definately check it out.
8 responses so far »
1 Anonymous // Feb 20, 2007 at 10:38 pm
You spelled meant wrong.
I am sure she still loves you more than life itself.
2 mom // Feb 24, 2007 at 11:39 am
Matthew, better now than 10 years down the rosd
and several children later when the differences are
insurmountable and its a lot more complicated
and much harder. We love you very much and we are
praying for you and Tammy.
Love, Mom
p.s. watch your language, i.e. off-roading video…..
3 Judson Smith // Feb 25, 2007 at 2:05 pm
First of all - I love you.
Second - If you really love her, why did you let her get away?
Third - How do you know if what you have is true love -or- maybe just good friendship with some infatuation mixed in?
Fourth - The issue that your mother has pointed out to be very important to consider when thinking of such matters as a life partner - key word “life” meaning you want to be compatable with the one you chose in every way - the issue is not a difference in religious views - but rather a relationship with God through Jesus Christ - and a foundation of belief based only one the Bible (the infallible Word of God) - in other words - are you truly His and is she truly His?
And Fifth - God has a plan for you - and He has pointed details for you to fulfill in your life - don’t settle for GOOD but rather want to be open to His leading you into the BEST He wants for you - not saying that Tammy is not this one - but you need to pray and wait on the Lord - This is a huge decision to consider carefully - Maybe your relationship with her is not to that point - but it could lead to that point - so - consider your options carefully and prayerfully
4 Jill Adrien // Mar 5, 2007 at 1:42 pm
SORRY!!!!!!!! All I am concerned with if she is a Christian. She might be born Greek, but what is really in her heart. Whomever you marry, you should be on the same page because there are going to be SO many differences that you need a good foudation to build a HAPPY marraige, not just a so so marriage. Trust me I know! I know it hurts for awhile, but maybe time apart will help you see the right answer. I don’t have a problem with her background, just if she is a Christian or not. If you marry someone that is not, you will open yourself up to alot of heart ache for a LONG time. Plus then usually kids are involed then. Love ya Lots, Aunt Jill
5 Matthew Smith // Mar 5, 2007 at 1:50 pm
Thanks for all the support everyone! It has been an interesting two weeks, to say the least. I appreciate everything, and it is always wonderful to hear everyone’s kind sentiments. Thank you!
6 Brian // Mar 20, 2007 at 7:28 pm
Sorry man! But WHY did you let her go? She’s beautiful.
7 AnonYmous // Apr 30, 2007 at 12:28 pm
Are you over her yet?
8 Matthew Smith // Apr 30, 2007 at 12:42 pm
Life goes on.
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